Part One: Background
Hello, my name is Tosha and I am a single woman living in Los Angeles. (Say it together, “Hi Toshaaaaaaa“)
Being single, all of my friends, colleagues, and even casual acquaintances are constantly trying to set me up. I am absolutely ready for a relationship – that’s no secret, but I am not desperate by any means. What that means is that I have my eyes and heart open for the possibility of meeting a guy. But I will not settle. My father says i’m too picky and you know what – I think I should be! I plan to be married one time. ONCE. period.
I have never been one of those girls who cannot survive out of a relationship. Ever since a four-year relationship ended in college, I have been “dating” but I have not found a man who has earned the title of “boyfriend”. There have been some guys I have seen more than a couple of times and others who lasted only one date, but that’s because there was always something missing. No spark. No butterflies. No vision of a future with those men. I want that. I know it’s out there…and I will wait. I’m not saying I am always patient with it. There are times when I am absolutely fine being single and revel in my independence. Then there are other times when the “I wanna boyfriend” syndrome starts to creep up and pollute my brain -usually after a sappy movie or another high school friend announces an engagement or pregnancy.
Here’s my truth. I’m 27 years old and scared that I won’t EVER find Mr. Right. I know i’m not the only late 20-something, 30-something woman who feels that way. When I was younger, I definitely thought I would be married by my age. Shoot – way sooner than 27! I want to be married and I want to have children. I just don’t know when that’s going to happen.
So there it is. Part one of being single in Los Angeles. I wanted to give you a little background before venturing into the many humorous and sometimes depressing stories that come with singledom. I have much more to write, including FAQ’s (I’m sure my fellow single peeps could spout off a couple of these without hestitation), my experience with online dating, flack from family and friends, and more.